One of the things they can earn a sticker for is independent time. From 4:30-5:00 p.m. every day, they are required to play independently, either upstairs or outside. They can play together but not with me. At first, Anna would sit at the top of the stairs and ask repeatedly, "Is independent time over? Is independent time over?" They would fight and bicker and tattle on each other. I would calmly and quietly direct them back upstairs or outside and remind them it's independent time. This week, they are staying put for the entire 30 minutes!!! A few times, I've overheard them playing together, imaginary play, and it makes my heart soar. Dominic is so good for Anna, even though he causes her so much stress.
I've been enjoying my 30 minutes of solitude... it's even worth the 30 minutes it takes me to clean up after them (with their help, of course). :)